My Choice: A Strong Message of Individuality and Equality…

The voice is confident. Resolute. The arguments, compelling. The message undeniable and clear.

This is a deeply self-aware individual breaking free of shackles, of her community, of an oppressive Indian (Eastern) society. Doubtlessly, an alluring human being. One claiming her right to be equal to any other in her choices and way of life. One asserting self-determination, demanding such recognition and respect from others around.

I love her strong, independent voice…but am troubled by its implications. This is the age-old argument and conflict, between accommodation in society and individualism, but with an added dimension of a demand for liberating equality. That she wishes self-determination is admirable. But does she forgo, in all fairness, courtesies and preferential consideration that gentle folk practice? Is she willing to face consequences for choices made?

In events that unfold in “Humbling and Humility,” I’ve discussed this in various ways. Numerous families, formed and living in both eastern and western ways of life, facing such choices and their consequences. Clearly, how you think about this will be your choice…in all humility, I’ll leave that to you! 🙂

As for me, I try now, more than ever, to stress less upon “Me,” and more upon what choices made do to my children and others around me…



About Rian Nejar

Rian Nejar is an Indian-American author. He trained and worked as an engineer in India, lived briefly in the Middle East, and arrived in America in the early 90's. After a Master’s degree in electrical engineering in America, he worked as an academic instructor, engineer, entrepreneur, and technical writer over the two decades since. Humbling and Humility ( is his first mainstream nonfiction. He lives and writes in the Southwest United States.
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